It used to be diapers, bottles, sleepless nights, long days, short naps, laundry and sheer physical exhaustion.
I remember the days of two little boys in diapers and needing to constantly be reminded that being a mom is an honor.
Not that I didn’t love being a mom. I have always loved being a mom.
But there were so many days that I didn’t see the long term.
I didn’t see the beauty, the dignity, the bigness of this job.
I was a mom. I knew in my head that it was important and honorable.
I knew in my head that it mattered, and that God saw me.
But I think there were many days when I would sort of longingly look at the “big jobs”. The “important jobs”. The “dignified jobs”.
Because let’s face it. Changing dirty diapers, singing little ones back to sleep, cleaning up spilled juice for the two hundred seventy second time and spanking naughty little toddlers does not feel big. It does not feel important. And It certainly doesn’t feel dignified.
It feels tiring. And you feel like giving in sometimes.
Being the mom of 2 teenage boys now makes me realize just how big of a job it really was and is.
I watch the way my kids interact with others.
I watch the way they work at their school work, the way they serve at church, the way they respond to their parents and grandparents, the way they have grown and matured and I realize more than ever.
Being a mom is not only a big job. It is the biggest job. The most important. The most dignified.
See, sometimes you want to just sigh and think…it’s not that big of a deal if I overlook the fact that he just threw his cup on the floor because he was mad at me.
But what that turns into is a teenager, who is taller than you, who is saying no to you when you want him to say yes and you have no control.
What you don’t realize, is that the job you do now has an incredible impact on the life that he lives later.
It’s not only big. It’s enormous.
The responsibility. The challenge and yes even the dignity.
You are raising a human being!
That is such an honorable job!
Much more so than even starting your own business, running a big company, or any other job you are looking at that appears so dignified!
Being a mom is the most honorable job.
You are speaking truth into this little tiny life which will stay with him when he is a teenager and having to make a decision on whether or not he should talk back to the teacher when all the other kids are
Or whether or not he should scream at the ref after a bad call.
Or whether or not he should cheat, steal or lie.
You are also teaching him how to be a leader, how to be godly, how to treat others, how to work hard…
It all starts with you. The mom.
The one who spends those long sleepless nights with a crying baby and who changes all those dirty diapers.
You are the one doing this incredibly difficult job for no pay and no apparent gain.
BUT. You are not only impacting the one life of your child, you are impacting more people than you may ever know.
When you teach your children to serve others, all of those other people’s lives are now affected.
It’s an incredible job.
It’s a challenging job.
And it is the biggest job you could ever have.
It’s hard. Yes it is. But it’s worth it when you hold on and stay strong.
Because you may feel like you are doing this parenting thing for no gain? But actually, what you receive is priceless.
When your teenage son tells you you’re his best friend? Gain.
When your teenage son hugs you when you are sad? Gain.
When your teenage son reminds you to read your Bible? Gain.
You are the one who gains after all of this!
So don’t forget the bigness of your job.
Don’t belittle it.
Don’t put it down.
Don’t minimize the impact.
Don’t longingly look at another job and think it would be more rewarding.
And don’t wish it away.
Seeing your children love Jesus, make good choices, serve God and serve others…that is the best reward you could ever ask for.
Yes. Parenting is a bigger job than it feels.
But just because it doesn’t feel big, doesn’t make it any less important.