Dear tired momma,
I know how you are feeling right now. You are totally and completely sleep deprived. You can’t remember the last time you sat down and ate a healthy meal, and you are pretty sure you’re going on coffee number 6 right now.
But then, maybe that was yesterday. What day even is it? Who knows.
They all kind of run together after a while.
I know that the pretty instagram picture you just posted of your adorable kids smiling was only minutes before the melt down started… By you. Not even them.
I mean, whoever told you that the mom was the one who was going to have meltdowns?
All this reading on how to handle your child’s temper tantrum did not prepare you for finding yourself having the mommy version of a temper tantrum.
Sure. You’re not throwing yourself on the floor and kicking your feet or anything. But the tears are the same. The frustration is real. And you literally feel like this life is too much to bear.
That somehow, God must have forgotten about that verse where He says He never gives you more than you can handle.
Because this? This feels like more than you can handle.
And then right as you are starting to feel like it’s all too much to handle, the guilt kicks in with reckless abandon, screaming at you and asking you what kind of a mother you are.
What kind of a mother with healthy children, a husband who loves her and a home to live in feels like it’s too much?
You start feeling like not only can you not handle it, but you must be the worst mother in the world.
I mean, what kind of mother snaps at her kids? What kind of a mother bites her husbands head off the second he gets home from work? What kind of a mother gives hot dogs to her kids for dinner, and then gives them fruit snacks for dessert. Fruit snacks. We all know there is not fruit in those things! Just sugar and dye. The kids will never get to sleep tonight. Oh great. Now you’re looking forward to bed time. What kind of a mother looks forward to bed time?
Does any of this sound like you? Well, let me tell you what kind of a mother does any of those things, tired momma.
Every mother. Listen to me. Every mother has times when they feel like they literally can not handle their life. Every mother has times when they bite their husbands heads off, gives hot dogs for dinner and fruit snacks for dessert. Every mother has days when they look forward to bed time.
Do. Not. let the enemy deceive you into thinking that you are the only one. You are not.
You are not.
You can do this. I promise you that you can. I know. I know it’s hard. I know that you are trying to enjoy every moment, you are trying to hold on to today. But when they don’t sleep, and you aren’t eating enough, and you weigh 10 pounds more than you want to, and you don’t feel pretty…it’s hard. It is. I get it. But trust me. You can make it.
The times you lose it? Make sure you go back and apologize. It’s ok. Kids are great forgivers. And they will not even remember these hard moments.
The times you snap at your husband? Go back and apologize. It will make your marriage stronger.
And those guilty thoughts? Take them captive, girl. Take them captive and you make them obey Christ.
Guilt does not come from God. Peace does. And peace is a gift that God gave you, do not let the enemy steal it.
It is rightfully yours.
Your kids aren’t going to benefit from you feeling guilty about any of the things you are feeling guilty about, and it just does not make you feel good!
And if you feel like you just can’t get through the day? Call someone! Text someone! Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Even if that help means someone bringing you a coffee, or praying over the phone, or grabbing diapers at the store so you don’t have to go out. Ask for help. It’s a bad habit to start feeling like you need to do everything yourself. We are better together.
You’re gonna make it, tired momma. You are gonna make it. Tomorrow is a new day. The sun will come out again. God’s mercies will be new for you and his faithfulness will be as strong as ever. You will have new chances and a fresh start. But when you wake up tomorrow? Don’t you even dare look back at your failures from today. It’s done. It’s over. Move on and keep going.
You got this. You got this.
A mom who’s been there.