Mommy Monday ~ Working more now so you can work less later

I have been looking back at some of my blog posts that I wrote years ago.

It reminded me of the long tiring days with 2 little boys in diapers.

Adam and I were leading youth group at our house, we were running our own business while Adam worked 2 jobs, and we were struggling financially. Life was not easy. Like. At all.

It’s good to look back and remember where you have been, and where God has taken you!

I am very passionate about godly, purposeful parenting (as most of you know) and am always blessed and encouraged when I see parents who are really parenting the way God wants.

Sadly, I feel that there are a lot of Christians who are being beguiled into thinking that God’s Word is not the ONLY answer. What I mean by this, is that a lot of people pick and choose the parts of the Bible they feel like obeying at the time.

I believe that God’s Word is the only answer!

Remembering back to the days of a 2-year-old and a 4-year-old at home…

a lot of my days were spent disciplining and disciplining, over and over.

I was not always consistent, obviously.

But I was really set on working more now so I could work less later.

I had 2 strong willed boys and they gave me a run for my money!

I believed that putting my kids in time outs went directly against the verse that says “A child left to himself brings his mother to shame.” I never put my kids in time out.

I believed that the verses involving a little more work and went completely against what just about every other person I knew was saying were the things that I thought God wanted me to implement into my kids discipline.

So I realized something very early on:

You work more now so you can work less later.

Let me give you 2 options that I had and what each outcome would look like.

I tell my son to pick up the cup off the floor and put it in the kitchen.

He says no.

Option 1.

Stay sitting on the couch (since I did only get about 2 hours of un-interrupted sleep last night and I am in the middle of reading a book to my other child.)

I can just pick up the cup later, and I don’t feel like moving right now.

Option 2.

Tell the son I am reading to that he needs to hold on for a couple of minutes.

Calmly get up off the couch

Take my disobedient son upstairs and bring my Bible and the paddle with me.

Discipline, hug, kiss, pray.

Go back downstairs and finish reading my story, while my now obedient son puts his cup in the kitchen.

Obviously option 2 takes a lot longer than option 1.

however

let me tell you the results of option 1 vs. option 2.

Fast forward 6 years

Result 1.

Tell your now 8-year-old son to go upstairs and get dressed for the day.

He ignores you.

Tell him again.

He starts whining, and continues to play his video game.

Tell him again.

He turns and says that he will do it when he is done

Tell him you are serious!

He stomps his feet and looks at you with eyes that are daring you to try and move him.

You throw you hands up and tell him that his father is going to have to deal with him when he gets home. (you both know he’s too big and strong for you to really handle at this point)

Result 2.

Tell your now 8-year-old son to go upstairs and get dressed for the day.

He says “yes mom”  and goes upstairs to obey.

See, this is the beguilement that we fall for…

We try things once, twice, maybe even 5 times.

but then mix it with not following through 6, 7 or even 10 times…

Then we don’t get the results we want, so we fall back to sitting on the couch.

I can not tell you how many times this has come to my mind this week alone –

I am so glad that I was consistent when they were little!!

Because the rewards I am enjoying now are so amazing,

And I don’t even remember most of the stressful days!

The benefits of working harder now?

Are that you will get to work less later!

My boys right now, at 13 and 11, continuously blow me away with their attitudes, their words, and their actions. It is so obvious that the work I put in on those seemingly never ending days were totally worth it.

So seriously believe me.

It is hard work. I get it. I have been there, and I understand how absolutely exhausted you feel.

But trust me when I say:

It will be totally worth it!!

You can do this! I know you can.

If you need some moral support, someone to bring you a coffee, or text you a crazy picture of myself to make you laugh…hit me up.

And since I am on vacation this week, I thought I would add a picture of my boys and my nephew having a little fun at the lake.

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